I don't think healing is the exact word I want, but it will serve. One never really gets over loss, but you do learn to live with that black void that tends to follow you around. It lurks like a ghost, just on the edge of your emotions, ready to reveal itself on a moment's notice, blindsiding you with the weight of the grief you thought you had come to terms with.
This year the ghosts of the past have been lingering more than I would wish. My mother, the last of my childhood first family, passed away April 15th, 2016. She had been in decline since 2011 after a stroke. At times, she didn't know who I was, at other times, she was back in the past—back to her early teen and adult years. I don't know who she thought I was, but I could always tell if she knew me or not based on her reaction to me. If she didn't know me, she was oh so polite, thanking me for whatever I did, etc. If she knew me, it was more of a attitude that would order me about, tell me to go get or to do. No stranger politeness. And that was okay, because I knew when she knew :)
Toward the end, she had several more strokes and could not talk or really move much. But I think, when I looked into her eyes, she knew me.
I hope so anyway. And I hope she is with Ron and Dad.
Below are a few details we shared about Mom at her funeral, though it is very hard to honor a life in a few short paragraphs. I do hope to write a book about growing up...mainly because I want to get things down, before I forget too!
In Memory of Mom
Tell me not, in mournful numbers,
Life is but an empty dream!
For the soul is dead that slumbers,
And things are not what they seem.
Life is real! Life is earnest!
And the grave is not its goal;
Dust thou art, to dust returnest,
Was not spoken of the soul.
~ Longfellow,
'A Psalm of Life'
Life is but an empty dream!
For the soul is dead that slumbers,
And things are not what they seem.
Life is real! Life is earnest!
And the grave is not its goal;
Dust thou art, to dust returnest,
Was not spoken of the soul.
~ Longfellow,
'A Psalm of Life'
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June was born
June 10th, 1923 in Salem Ridge (Germantown), Kentucky to Ira Disher
Hicks and Carrie Kemper Woodward. The youngest of three siblings, she often
spoke fondly of her early years growing up on the farm and of her memories of
family and friends. Her sister, Hazel was a quiet, soft-spoken girl who preferred
books and music to romping and adventure. June suffered through her piano
lessons, always eager to join her older brother Norman on adventures or playing
games outside when they had time away from chores. June was a bit of a tomboy.
In later years,
June's tomboy personality found an outlet in watching baseball, football, and
basketball on television along with the occasional wrestling match or roller
derby.
June learned the
meaning of working hard and hard work from her father. She recalled, once when
she was quite young, maybe four, the whole family was working the fields --
they grew tobacco as well as had dairy cows, etc. -- and June sat down in the
fields and proclaimed she was tired. Her father got off the wagon, paddled her
behind and sent her right back to work. She said after that, she never ever
said she was tired again.
During WWII, she
left the farm and moved to Dayton, Ohio where she became one of the many women
answering the call for war effort workers. As one of the "Soldiers Without
Guns," she worked for NCR (The National Cash Register Company) assembling
bomber engines.
It was while
working at NCR that June met Grover Noe. He started working there shortly after
returning home from the war.
On March 27th,
1948, June married Grover Cleveland Noe in Lexington, Kentucky. June then had
to quit NCR because, at the time, the company had a policy about married women
working there.
She discovered
shortly thereafter, that she wasn't cut out to be a stay-at-home mom/wife, and
actually enjoyed working outside the home. So, June went job-hunting. She had a
short stint working for a factory that sewed garments for a retail store,
before being hired by The McCall Pattern Company in Dayton, Ohio as a
handfolder (folding patterns by hand). She worked at McCall's until the early
1960s, when Grover bought a full service Texaco service station in Phoenix, AZ
and moved the family west. Grover's brother Bill and family moved with them.
Bill worked for Grover in AZ. The station was called, "Grover Noe's
Texaco." June ran the office, and Grover ran the service bays/pumps, etc.
In 1967, they
sold the station and moved back to Dayton, and June was rehired by McCall's. In
1970, McCall's moved to Manhattan, KS and June came along as a trainer for the
handfolding department. She eventually became supervisor over handfolding,
holding that title until her retirement.
June was an avid
walker, sports fan, loved puzzles of all kinds, chocolates, and animals. Later
in life, when an ailing hip kept her from walking, she'd take great pleasure in
watching the squirrels and bird feed in the backyard. As a child, she had many
pets including a squirrel she'd befriended.
Before leaving
AZ, Ron and Sheri were given a large white rabbit they named Snowball. June
taught the rabbit to follow her around the house and to actually use a
newspaper for its business. Snowball and June's Chihuahua,
Peaches, became reluctant friends in competition for June's attention. On the
move back to Ohio from AZ, both rabbit and dog traveled with the family,
claiming spots on the seats. At one restaurant stop, Snowball and Peaches
managed to get out of the station wagon and somehow made it inside the
restaurant and ran right to June at the table. Ron had to smuggle the rabbit
out under his shirt while June placed Peaches in her pocket. Animals loved her.
Here is a little more info. on NCR and the WWII part of her life:
Involvement in World War II
During
World War II, Dayton, like many other American cities, was heavily involved in
the war effort. Residential neighborhoods in Dayton and in nearby Oakwood
hosted the Dayton Project, in which the Monsanto Chemical Company developed
methods to industrially produce polonium for use in the triggers of early
atomic bombs, including those dropped by the United States on Hiroshima and
Nagasaki, Japan.
Dayton
was also home to the National Cash Register Company whose employees built
airplane engines, bomb sights and code-breaking machines, including the
American bombe designed by Joseph Desch which helped crack the Enigma machine.
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NCR:
During World War I the company manufactured shell fuses and aircraft
instrumentation, and during World War II built aero-engines, bomb sights and
code-breaking machines, including the American bombe designed by Joseph Desch.
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Five “E” Awards
In World War II, NCR carried on a number
of major projects in the war effort, and received five Army-Navy “E” awards.
During this period, NCR produced MK4
rocket motors, was the sole production source for the 58 Chandler-Evans
aircraft carburetor, which was used on the B-29 long-range bomber that
ultimately carried the first nuclear bombs, and turned out K-3 and K-4 analogue
computer gunsights, used in bomber defense systems.
In addition, the Company produced more
than two million M-42 antiaircraft time fuses, and made a million and a quarter
magazines for the Oerlikon gun, a Swiss model that the Navy adapted for
shipboard antiaircraft use. In addition,
the Company manufactured about 10 million spare parts for carbine rifles.
